The results indicated that when couples experienced short-term conflicts, positive illusions like the belief that their spouse could see their point-of-view, increased marital satisfaction, regardless of whether it was true or not. “Positive illusions help people weather stormy parts of their relationship by reassuring them that their partner is a good choice,” Rigby explained. “They are particularly good in a relationship with a husband who has trouble being emotionally open (high attachment avoidance). If he thinks his wife is excellent at seeing things from his perspective, and these perceptions exaggerate her true abilities, his insecurity may matter less to the couple’s relationship satisfaction.”
That may not sound like the best way to go about a relationship, let alone a marriage, but before you judge these lying liars, Rigby pointed out that “previous studies have found that over time people often grow to embody their partner’s positive illusions — e.g., if I think my partner is good at taking my perspective, their perspective-taking skills are likely to grow over time.”
When you look at it that way, maybe Pinocchio wasn’t lying after all. Maybe he was just trying to manifest a better relationship with those around him.
Related: 5 Awful Lessons Disney Teaches You About Relationships
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