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There are so many opinions on relationships. From movies and books to people, everything and everyone tells us what we should and should not do. Often we might even look up to others for relationship lessons. While it’s okay to take relationship advice, it’s equally important to decide whether it is suitable for your situation or not. Sometimes the best advice is not following any advice and doing what you think is right for you. Easier said than done, right? There are many unrealistic expectations and rules when it comes to relationships. We feel pressured or obliged to follow these rules for a supposedly “perfect relationship.” In reality, no relationship is perfect and these overbearing rules around it are just mere myths. Let’s bust a few.
Concept Of ‘The One’
The concept of “the one” can forever keep us in search of something or someone that doesn't really exist. The one is supposed to be your perfect person who understands you, loves you, the with whom the universe has written your story. While the hopeless romantic in you might dance at this idea, there is a downside to it. Once you feel you’ve found your the one, you might store all your hopes and dreams into them, hoping that they’ll provide you with a fairytale you’ve always dreamt of. At this point, haven’t we realised that life isn’t a fairytale? In the same way, romance isn’t a fairytale as well. This concept can make us put unrealistic expectations upon your relationship and it can be deeply upsetting if these expectations are not fulfilled.
Remember, a soulmate is a choice, not a mythical creature. You must empower yourself to choose your own partner rather than depending on the universe to show some serendipity.
Set Timeline For Milestones
The first “I love you” should come after three months of being in a relationship. After moving in together, the timeline is a maximum of four years before a marriage proposal is initiated. Is this a relationship or a race? There isn’t any time limit to your relationship. Believing these set timelines can lead to anxiety and distrust in your relationship. It’s best to follow your instincts and heart when you want to take the next step.
No Attraction To Others
You can find other people attractive even while you’re in a fulfilling relationship. What matters is how you act on these feelings of attraction. You can choose the mature path where you acknowledge that you’re attracted to someone else and not act on it. When you normalise this and accept it as common as anything else, a simple attraction to someone else won’t mean anything and won’t seem like a big deal.
The Right Relationship Will Be Easy
While being with a partner who knows you well and understands you can be comforting, the relationship still takes work and commitment to blossom. No relationship is perfect. If we follow this myth, then again, we might have unrealistic expectations from the relationship where we’ll expect everything to fall into place on its own. However, for things to come together, it needs tons of patience or hard work.
The Goal Of Every Relationship Is Marriage
If marriage is the goal of your relationship and your partner is on the same page, great. But is you both are simply falling prey to a social construct, think again. Give yourself the freedom to choose your goal instead of what is commonly accepted by society. Your goal can be growth or it can be just love as well. In today’s times, many are rethinking the concept of marriage. So, it’s time we normalise relationships that don’t have a definite future in mind.
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