When it comes to relationships, there are certain myths we all have heard and understandably even believe. These relationship myths have the potential to cause some very real harm to families and couples who may truly believe them. Societal beliefs have a huge impact on our relationships even if we don't realize it.
As we get older, we've had more experience with a variety of relationships and form our own opinions based on our personal experiences. There are those first experiences with love where everything is new, the experiences of awkward young flirting, first heartbreaks, and the first person you'll ever love. Still, every relationship is completely unique and has its own nuances and personal aspects that make it unlike any other romantic relationship in the world.
With more personal relationship experience and what you know from friends, co-workers, and movies, you begin to think of yourself as some sort of relationship expert. You have your opinions on most relationship scenarios because of your own experiences but what you know likely aren't the real trends. You're not a relationship expert because you've had a few.
Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. writes The Psychology of Relationships blog on Psychology Today and says that the plethora of research on relationships and those dynamics far outweigh one individual's personal experiences. That leaves psychological research as the actual authority on relationships and not what has happened to just you, your friends, and your family.
Dr. Lewandowski breaks down some relationship myths that we all have heard. Among them is the old saying that opposites attract and the belief that long-distance relationships are automatically doomed.
Dr. Lewandowski Jr. writes, "Opposites attract, and then they attack."
What he means is that couples who fall on opposites ends in personality and beliefs may start strong. They may even last a long time but ultimately those core differences do end up taking a toll more often than not.
Long-distance relationships are seen as impossible to maintain is another common myth. Dr. Lewandowski says that couples in long-distance relationships actually often experience a deeper romantic connection and a deeper level of love. In maintaining this type of relationship, a couple must prioritize communication and their partner. They must make up for the physical connection by maintaining a stronger mental and emotional connection in their time apart.
On the contrary, while forgiveness is often preached in romantic relationships, that belief is proved to be a myth. Dr. Lewandowski advises that forgiveness is not the best choice when you have a partner who is unwilling to apologize or recognize any wrong behavior.
A 2010 study published in the Journal of Family Psychology discovered that when an individual in a relationship was forgiven, their behavior became even worst. They nagged more and started more arguments. In the end, romantic relationships don't usually end from one singular event. It's a lot of little things and little issues that become so big the relationship ends.
Source: Psychology Today, APA Psych Net
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